Share Your Story

We want to hear from you!  Whether you are a nurse or a physician, a breastfeeding mom or a formula feeding mom, from a Baby-Friendly hospital or one that hopes to be one day–we want to learn from your story.  Share your experience with us here.


10 Responses to Share Your Story

  1. Dane Nutty says:

    Congrats on the blog and journey to baby-friendly certification!

  2. April Kelly says:

    As a first time mom, I was obviously nervous about many things! One of my main fears was of going to the hospital. I’d been fortunate to have never been hospitalized for any reason. I’m sure some of my fears stemmed from media, there are so many movies, tv shows and books that portray the medical staff as the bad guys in childbirth. My experience was far from the horror story I expected! I labored at home as long as I could (9 hours) when our doula suggested heading to the hospital. Nobody acted like I was crazy for wanting a drug free delivery like I expected they would. I labored another 12 hours before my baby boy was born. I was never made to feel like a patient, and was treated with respect and dignity the entire time. I knew that I would breastfeed no matter what and I was pleased to find my questions answered by knowledgable lactation nurses. I am lucky that breastfeeding has gone smoothly for us since the beginning, but I left feeling confident that I knew who to reach out to in case I ran into difficulties. I’ve gone to the support group meetings for 19 weeks, and I hope to support others there as well as receiving support and advice. I think a support system like that is so valuable and all new mothers should be encouraged to participate.

  3. SG says:

    As a nurse and an expectant mom (this will be #6!), I can’t wait to experience baby-friendly. I have always hated getting rid of formula samples after I come home. I have had some very supportive and some very un-supportive experiences with breastfeeding in the hospital. I have tandem nursed 3 times, and no matter how wonderful most of the nurses/support staff are, there are always people who think that I am crazy when my older kids come to visit the new baby and sneak in a snack.Some people just can’t get behind my extended & tandem breastfeeding. I had a wonderful experience with my last baby- an unplanned c/s. I was overwhelmed, exhausted & unable to hold the baby for a little while. The amazing post-op nurses litereally held my baby and helped him latch on while I just laid in bed. They made sure that we were able to nurse relatively quickly without any undue stress. I am so grateful for that opportunity and their dedication. I hope that the baby-friendly change will be a real eye opener and jumping point for mothers, babies & their caregivers beyond the hospital.

  4. Jodi Pairitz, RNC Child Birth Unit at Memorial Hospital says:

    Jodi Pairitz, RNC Child Birth Unit at Memorial Hospital says:
    March 16, 2012 at 2:46 pm

    I agree. I think we do such a great job as a team helping moms start breastfeeding in that first hour of life. Speaking from experience, I have four children ages 22 to 3 yrs. I was 19 when I had my first daughter. I didn’t have any support in breastfeeding with her in the hospital or at home. I wound up only nursing her for only a few weeks. She wound up with a lot of GI issues. I had such great support and education with my other children and had a wonderful experience with assistance on breastfeeding with my 3 year old that I was able to be confident enough to breastfeed him for 19 months!!! I hope to help all of my patients with the confidence they need to start off being successful at nursing and bonding with their baby. I think this is honestly the best gift we can give them!

  5. Brigid O'Daniel says:

    I am another first time mom. Initially I had a pretty positive view of labor. However as the time drew near, I couldn’t help but have some anxiety. I read a book on the Bradley method and I took the hospital classes that were offered. Preparing for labor definitely helped me to be more relaxed when the time came. Also the nurse, who taught our classes at Memorial, praised Memorial Hospital for its commitment to practices and policies that were best for mother and baby. My anxiety over labor definitely lessened when I knew I could really trust the staff at the hospital. My experience at Memorial matched my expectations. Even though labor was tough, I came away with a positive experience. The nurses who took care of me were amazing! They were so knowledgeable and caring. Labor gets to be a pretty sweaty intense job and my nurses were there every step of the way with me.

    After getting through labor, I was glad that breastfeeding went smoothly (although I was definitely sore!). My little girl did not have a problem latching on which was great. Of course both my baby and I still had to learn how to breastfeed. I really appreciated the lactation consultants that saw me in the hospital. They were skilled at helping me and my baby.

  6. anonymouscardiologist says:

    I’m really curious what you think about this story.

    What measures does your hospital have in place to keep this from happening? I’m the author of the story, and I have to say that the experience did not just keep me from breastfeeding my firstborn, it has made my husband and me extremely reluctant to breastfeed our future children as well. This is the exact opposite of what BFHI is supposed to achieve.
    From the comments, it’s abundantly clear that this I’m not alone with this experience.

    • Thank-you for sharing. I hope stories like these will be a continued reminder for our hospital that Baby-Friendly is not about a designation; it’s about the patients. We do believe that the 10 Steps to Successfull Breastfeeding, required for Baby-Friendly designation, represents what will help our patients be successful in their goals to breastfeed. That’s what we care about. We fully recognize that goals change, and we also recognize the need for idividualized care. For cases in which it is appropriate to take the baby from the room, all Baby-Friendly requires is documentation.

      • anonymouscardiologist says:

        Thank you for posting my story. My point is not that BFHI or the 10 steps are inherently problematic. I’d like to raise awereness that they sometimes have unintended and counterproductive side effects. This is what happened at my hospital and it isn’t rare, judging from the amount of response I got to my story My 2 major concerns are

        1. A culture of ‘blaming and shaming’ of mothers whose breastfeeding doesn’t go well among the nursing staff. This has nothing to do with the procedures for obtaining formula, but with bedside manner. It can be remedied by educating staff that too much emotional pressure is counterproductive and likely to cause psychological distress to mothers.

        2. The absence of a well baby nursery and a policy of 100% rooming in with exceptions only in the most extreme circumstances. Women with complicated labors or surgical deliveries are being set up for breastfeeding failure by sleep deprivation. This is what cost me my breastfeeding relationship. A few hours of uninterrupted sleep can make the difference between establishing breastfeeding or giving up in despair.

        How will your hospital tackle these issues?

      • You are welcome. Transparent sharing of ideas and viewpoints was one of our goals when we started this blog. Your input is appreciated!
        The language we have used in our planning has been that we want all women to feel “golden” in their role as a mother, and we want to help facilitate that feeling. Supporting her in her choices, promoting bonding and providing education aimed to increase confidence is how we hope to accomplish this. We also have a group of nurses working on what to say to mothers who decide they would like to formula feed after a day or two, as well as what do when a mother asks to send her baby to the nursery. We know we have some real opportunities here to help new mothers but need to do it with the greastest compassion and sincerity, keeping in mind our responsibility to provide individualized care. These really aren’t just words. We are committed first and foremost to the patients we serve.

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